Legacy Building With My Family

Today is a bizarre day. I’m sitting on a plane heading across the country to see my family.

I’m flying solo without kids to entertain or a husband to talk with.

The flight was booked less than 48 hours ago and I packed one suitcase just for my belongings.

Yesterday, I scrambled to get my house in order, food shop and make sure that I spoke about my separation from the kids for a few days.

So, why an unexpected trip?

My grandpa’s health is rapidly declining and I want to be there for him and my family.

Instead of letting my emotions take over me, I have placed them in a safe place as I focus on thinking of ways to create lasting memories through legacy building activities. Yes, my child life hat is on tight as I talk openly to my kids and parents about what may happen.

I know that through my “work” with them, I am providing myself with a cathartic opportunity to connect to my grandpa and family on a deeper level. I am able to step into the shoes of families that I work with and see it from their point of view.

It puts it all into perspective.

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Legacy Building Activities with My Kids

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5 thoughts on “Legacy Building With My Family

  • You can have double dip feelings and wear more than one hat. Shani, as you wear your child life hat remember that witnessing and self care are part of the child life tool kit. You too have a tribe of elephants walking with you on this journey. You are loved and held as you hold your grandfather, your family and yourself during this time. Whatever feelings you have, and however they end up being expressed, it is all okay.

    • Aww Deb, you know I needed an elephant for this event. Even when I thought I could hold it together, emotions spill over and take control. It’s part of the grieving process, accepting what is occurring and realizing that we aren’t in control of the inevitable. With that all said, we created lasting memories, shared stories and allowed one another to just feel without sugarcoating it.