Top Parenting Books Other Than “What to Expect When You’re Expecting”

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Guest Blogger, Charlotte Dunlop

New parents looking to prepare themselves prior to the arrival of their firstborn child generally seek advice from a variety of sources. They ask thousands of questions to their own parents along with family and friends who already took the plunge. They buy baby book after baby book hoping to learn as much information as possible both before and after the birth. With so many options out there, it can be hard to know where to start. Most begin with What to Expect When You’re Expecting, but there are hundreds of new and classic titles out there with great parenting tips. Check out a few of them below.

The Best Parenting Books of All Time

Parents looking for time-honored parenting books still popular today should consider picking up one of the following:

The Baby Book

Author(s): William Sears, M.D., Martha Sears, R.N., Robert W. Sears, M.D., James Sears, M.D.

A true family classic, The Baby Book is written the knowledgeable Sears family of physicians. One of the most trusted authorities on infants, Dr. Sears and his family offer proven advice on sleeping, eating, comfort, and the overall health of your baby. They address common behavioral issues, medical interventions, necessary vaccinations, and give great tips on how to care for your child’s emotional and physical needs.

How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk

Author(s): Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

Existing parents already know what many new parents will soon come to learn, pleading or yelling at your child like an adult generally does not work. Faber and Mazlish teach you how to speak to your child in a respectful manner that will teach them out to express themselves better and save you a lot of headaches and hassles as they grow up. The advice they provide not only applies to children, but transfers into improving your communication skills within your other relationships as well.

Positive Discipline

Author(s): Jane Nelsen, Ed.D.

An educator, doctor of education, psychologist, and mother to seven children, Dr. Jane Nelsen’s book Positive Discipline first appeared on the market 25+ years ago. She focuses on parenting skills like maintaining mutual respect with your children while teaching them how to communicate and cooperate in a firm, but kind manner that actually works.

Top Parenting Books Other Than What to Expect When You’re Expecting

New Books for New Parents

While some new parents prefer to read the classics, others want to get the newest, most up-to-date advice for raising children. Even well-seasoned parents can learn a thing or two from these brilliant minds.

Ignore It!

Author: Catherine Pearlman

Pearlman is a family therapist and, therefore, has witnessed and discussed many different kinds of behavioral issues play out in a variety of settings. Since most children believe any attention is better than no attention, even if it means being shouted at by their parent. Pearlman suggests stepping back sometimes and “selectively looking the other way” can work better than addressing the bad behavior directly. That does not mean completely ignoring unsafe behavior that could lead to someone getting hurt, but stepping back and allowing children to work out their emotional issues themselves.

Gentle Discipline

Author: Sarah Ockwell-Smith

The subtitle of Gentle Discipline explains the main focus of the book, “Using Emotional Connection, Not Punishment, to Raise Confident, Capable Kids.” Ockwell-Smith addresses the many reasons children act out and how to control these bad behaviors using mutual respect and working with the child, rather than against them. She does not condone distractions as a means to calm down a misbehaving child and encourages parents to be more specific in everyday interactions.

Top Parenting Books Other Than What to Expect When You’re Expecting

The Grown-Up’s Guide to Teenage Humans

Author: Josh Shipp

The author, Josh Shipp, is a former foster child who survived the system despite severe behavioral issues. He managed to find a true home at the age of fourteen with a middle school history teacher and football coach named Rodney who instilled in him a sense of purpose and turned around all his behavioral issues. Shipp recounts the events of his childhood and describes how to create mutual respect and trust between you and your child along with the ways a parent’s role changes at the child ages.

Simplicity Parenting

Authors: Kim J. Payne and Lisa M. Ross

In today’s world of constant overstimulation by noise, advertisements, and general information, many people seek simplicity in their daily lives. They attempt to eliminate all the added stresses and anxieties, but how do you do that while raising small humans who also feel the consequences of overstimulation? Simplicity Parenting focuses exclusively on this struggle faced by modern parents. The authors give tips on scaling back the onslaught of modern media, how to schedule breaks and establish a more efficient rhythm to decrease tension, encouraging free play with non-screen toys, and other advice on simplifying home life for you and your child(ren).

Tips And Strategies To Understand And Control Your Child

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Guest Blogger, Andy Bell

Raising a kid is a tough job for every parent. However, it is a fulfilling one, especially when he grows up becoming a good individual. In order to understand and control the behavior of your child, here are some tips and strategies that can help you out.

1. Remain calm.

It is important that you, the parent, should remain calm when your child is reacting negatively to a certain situation, such as by being angry or frustrated. If your child sees that you cannot control your own self, it will only worsen the negative emotion he is feeling. Being calm will make your child calm, too. You should, instead, let him know that you understand his case yet explain to him, in a positive way, that a negative reaction will not solve any problem.

2. Limit the help you give.

The child should be able to know and understand the importance of independence. You should not rescue him every time you think he needs to be rescued. While your child could be facing difficulties with a certain task, he needs to learn things by himself. If you rescue him all the time, then, he will not be able to do tasks for himself. Instead of taking control of the things that he should do himself, you just have to support him.

3. Provide your kid enough opportunities to make wise choices.

Giving your child enough chances to make wise choices help him learn self-control. It also helps him to respond appropriately to the situation that he currently faces. You may use the “structured choice” technique where you give him two different choices yet they both lead your child to the right direction. For instance, when trying to make him clean his own room, you can ask where he wants to start first, the bed or the desk.

4. Understand that discipline is different from punishment.

You have to understand that these two terms are different and are not interchangeable. With discipline, you teach your child the manner on how to behave properly, explain why a certain behavior is inappropriate and reinforce him positively to do an acceptable behavior. With punishment, you force your kid to behave through the use of shame and fear. You should only punish your child if nothing else works without any verbal or physical abuse. Instead, you should reward positive behavior to encourage him to do what is right more often.

5. Be a good role model to your kids.

Younger children often mimic the behaviors of their parents. If you notice your child struggling academically, demonstrate the importance of seeking help through a program such as Tutor. Kids will learn the importance of advocating for themselves when they are faced with a challenge.