“Where are you Lydie?” Spotlight and Giveaway

Grief and loss is a journey that many families face, but how do we support young children with a sibling loss? As a child life specialist, I’m always incorporating books, play, and creative arts to help kids process their loss and find outlets for expression. The loss of a sibling through miscarriage, stillbirth, or even as a child can be difficult to understand.

I’m delighted to share a beautiful story written by a bereaved mother, Emma Poore in the honor of her daughter, Lydie.

Images copyright Emma Poore
Guest Blogger, Emma Poore

“Where are you Lydie?” is a special picture book, sensitively written and illustrated for children between 3 and 7 years old. It is a facilitative story and guide for young children and their parents to explore death and bereavement together and to start those difficult conversations or explore the questions that may come up after the death of a baby in a safe and inspiring space. Grandparents, Teachers, Caring Support Professionals, and friends can also share the story as a platform for exploration too.

 SANDS – stillbirth and neonatal death charity in the UK has endorsed this “Where are you Lydie?”

Images copyright Emma Poore
Where to Purchase

You can purchase “Where are you Lydie?” directly from Emma’s website.

Testimonials

“Warm and beautifully illustrated picture book for children about sibling loss and bereavement to support families through the grief of baby loss.” Child Bereavement UK

“A beautifully illustrated storybook for children who have been affected by the loss of a sibling. It’s an honest, sensitive and comforting story about two brothers trying to decide what to do, on what would have been their sister Lydie’s first birthday. A beautiful, engaging and sensitive book, to help make something so hard to talk to children about a little easier – and which would bring comfort to adults reading it too.” The Miscarriage Association

Images copyright Emma Poore
Author Bio

Emma Poore is a children’s author and illustrator with a diverse background in Theatre and Events. Honoring her daughter Lydie and her family’s bereavement journey through the eyes of her young sons, George and Henry, “Where are you Lydie?” is an illustrated picture book for young bereaved siblings affected by the death of a baby brother or sister. Endorsed by Sands – stillbirth and neonatal death charity and recommended by a growing number of bereavement charities and healthcare professionals, Emma’s book continues to be well received by many bereaved families worldwide.

Emma has written and talked about her family’s experience of child grief and sibling loss for The Telegraph, The Independent and various other publications and podcasts. To read her blog, more reviews, and find out more visit www.emmapoore.co.uk.  Be sure to follow her on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook.

Images copyright Emma Poore

We will be giving away a copy of “Where are you Lydie?” to one lucky winner.

Choose one or more ways to enter:

  1. Sign up for email notifications at ChildLifeMommy.com and leave a comment below.
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  5. Twitter: Follow, Like, and RT the post to @ChildLifeMommy and @EmmaPoore4

Good luck, the winner will be chosen by 1/30/21.

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It has been nearly four years since I had my miscarriages. It was such a difficult point in my life and I can remember the feelings of enormous pain, loss, and guilt that it brought me. I recently found this photo and it explains exactly how I felt.

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I tried to stay optimistic about having another child and a sibling for my son. I put all my energy into parenting, taking care of myself, and hanging on for the roller coaster ride of grief.

Some people tried to comfort me by saying, “at least it happened in the first trimester” or “it would have been much harder if you were further along.”

I understood where they were coming from, but what they didn’t realize, was the magnitude of loss was still enormous for me. This was a pregnancy. I did have a little life growing inside of me, even for a short, 5, 6 1/2, and 8 weeks.

I grieved for each loss.

I remember looking around and trying to have some connection to my losses. The only tangible items I had were a baby book and a positive pregnancy stick.

When I would take my son out, I noticed many white butterflies always fluttering by. I began to tell him, “Those are mommy’s butterflies. They are always following me.”

I feel like those butterflies represented my losses. They always put a smile on my face when I saw them and they began to give me hope.

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After the third consecutive miscarriage, I became pregnant with my son, Blake. He was my rainbow baby.

He has brought so much love to our family. I feel that our family unit is complete now. I have my two adoring sons, loving husband, and protective french bulldog.

What more could I ask for?

Nothing. I am good. I don’t need a baby girl. I don’t need to try for number three. Actually, I already had numbers three and four and five.

There is a very special bond that Blake and I have. He is known as a “mama’s boy”. In fact, I joke that he is still attached to the invisible umbilical cord.

He is constantly following me around, holding my hand, sitting on my lap, hugging and kissing on me, while saying “Oh, mommy!” He is just special.

Maybe he knows that he is a rainbow baby. He has a special bond with each of us and has filled the void.

As I reflect on where we were four years ago and where we are today, it is just amazing. I feel so lucky to be part of this family.

I still see my butterflies, but now I have two little boys pointing them out.

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I knew from being a child life specialist, that support and healthy coping strategies would help my husband and I get through this. If you find yourself in a similar situation, reach out for help, it can make a huge difference.

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My little man is turning one today. Hard to believe a year has passed. It felt like an eternity to have you enter the world, with all the obstacles that we encountered. Three miscarriages, endless blood work, doctor appointments and the emotional roller coaster ride of grief and loss.

I had faith and I surrender the negative feelings of unfairness, envy and anger. Once I did, I knew that I would have another baby. I knew that my son would have a sibling to play and grow up with. I knew that my husband and I would fall so deeply in love with something so precious that we created.IMG_8247

I have soaked up every second of your first year. I have a mental picture of so many amazing moments that I experienced with you. The relationship that you have with your brother is so sweet. I love that you call him “DaDin” for “Gavin” and light up when saying it.IMG_1639

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Your dad couldn’t be more elated, knowing that you are such a daddy’s boy. The way you crawl at high speed to be carried around on his side to the way you stare and point at pictures of him and say “DaDa!” You are truly a wonderful little boy, who has completed our family.

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