Feelings are Flags: Spotlight and Giveaway

This past year has been incredibly challenging. We have all been dealing with grief over the loss of normalcy, routines, social interactions, and family traditions. Some may have also experienced the loss of a loved one during the pandemic. Children have been trying to navigate this new normal with uncertainties and constant change. One way to help children cope is to name and validate their emotions. They need to feel understood and have an outlet to express themselves.

I often incorporate books when working with children. Staying within the metaphor, children feel validated and can learn valuable coping skills. I’m excited to share a new children’s book with you today, Feelings are Flags. It is a lovely children’s book that is written by a local author in my community.

Guest Blogger, Abigail Morales author of Feelings Are Flags

“Sometimes life is full of big feelings. They swell up in our chests and take over our dealings.” This is a sensation every person knows. Big or small, young or old, everyone has feelings. But why do we have them? What are they for? And most importantly, how do we make the big, bossy ones move along? These are great questions! Emotional management is an important skill for everyone to learn. Feelings Are Flags was written to help enable young children to identify why they have feelings and how to use them in a productive way.

It is the first in a series written for my own children. The current social and emotional climate has left them struggling, making it important that I speak in a more purposeful way so as to direct the conversation specifically towards habits and approaches that might alleviate the burden. Somewhere along the way, they evolved into picture books aimed at 4 – 8-year-olds. Through the lessons and coping mechanisms depicted within the series, I hope to encourage healthy emotional development so that children might grow to enjoy bright futures.

Purchase your copy today and be sure to follow on Instagram and Facebook.

Author Bio
Abigail Morales is a new independently published author primarily focused on children’s development, living in California with her husband and their three children.

We will be giving away a copy of Feelings are Flags to one lucky winner.

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Good luck, the winner will be chosen by 1/2/21.

Moving In Forever: A Children’s Book That Helps Families Cope with Loss

How do you explain to children that a loved one is going to die? It’s complicated to find the right words to say while navigating the grief emotions. When I work with families, I often validate how hard it is to verbally use the words death and dying. The one piece of information that I provide is how important it is, to be honest with kids. Adults are often too fearful of telling them because they don’t think kids can handle it. The truth is, that children are incredibly resilient. When we provide safety, security, and a foundation of trust we are providing them with incredible supportive tools to manage the loss.

Incorporating children’s books can help families cope with those tough conversations. I am excited to share a newly published book, Moving In Forever that can help children understand a terminal prognosis, hospice, and death. This book has a gentle way of explaining loss with a spiritual connection to heaven.

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I Said No! A Resource to Protect Children from Sexual Abuse

Guest Blogger, Kimberly King 

It is imperative that we start talking about sex education and sexual abuse prevention more seriously. It is an essential tool for prevention. Helping kids set healthy boundaries for their private parts can be a daunting and awkward task for parents, counselors, and educators.

Written from a kid’s point of view, I Said No! makes this task a lot easier. To help Zack cope with a real-life experience he had with a “friend,” he and his mom wrote a book to help prepare other kids to deal with a range of problematic situations. I Said No! uses kid-friendly language and illustrations to help parents and concerned adults give kids guidance they can understand, practice, and use.

  • One of a kind, unique book created for kids and shared in a kids voice
  • Told from a child’s perspective, based on a real-life kid story
  • Full of real-life kid scenarios that your child may encounter
  • Presented in kid language that provides comfort on a tough topic
  • Using a simple, direct, decidedly “non-icky” approach that doesn’t dumb down the issues involved, as well as an easy-to-use system to help kids rehearse and remember appropriate responses to help keep them safe.
  • How and where to go for help, and what to do if the people you’re turning to for help don’t listen
  • Dealing with feelings of guilt and shame
  • The body boundaries and rules about private parts
  • How to use colors to identify feelings and listen to them
  • Guided “what if? Scenario training for kids and parents to rehearse
  • Developing a family safety plan
  • Practicing the Think, Say, Do plan
  • How to handle the new online threat of pornography and dangerous people
  • How to identify red flag situations, feelings, and people. A solid education on healthy sexual development paired with sexual abuse prevention strategies will prepare your children as the develop and grow. Utilizing techniques to avoid dangerous situations, implement safety plans, and understanding body boundaries and concepts will serve both boys and girls in a positive way.

The facts are astounding.

It is highly likely that you know a child who has been or is being abused.

1.     Experts estimate that 1 in 10 children are sexually abused before their 18th birthday.

2.     30% of children are abused by family members.

3.     As many as 60% are abused by people the family trusts.

4.     About 35% of victims are 11 years old or younger.

5.     Nearly 40% are abused by older or larger children.

Stranger danger is a MYTH

Research shows that the greatest risk to children doesn’t come from strangers, but from friends and family. People who abuse children look and act just like everyone else. In fact, they often go out of their way to appear trustworthy, seeking out settings where they can gain easy access to children, such as sports leagues, faith centers, clubs, and schools.

About the Author:

Kimberly King left her traditional job as a kindergarten teacher to write books for children on difficult and often emotional topics. Kimberly King is a child-development professional, certified early-childhood educator, and darkness2light.org sexual abuse prevention Stewards of Children facilitator. She holds a Bachelor of Science degree in early childhood development and family studies from the University of Maine and a Master of Science degree in early childhood education. She is the author of, I Said No!, the best-selling children’s book about sexual-abuse prevention. King is the author of three kid-to-kid guides:

King lives with her family in Connecticut and is available for media trainings, interviews, school visits, and author signings.

We will be giving away a free copy to one lucky winner. Choose one or more ways to enter:

1. Sign up for email notifications at ChildLifeMommy.com and leave a comment below.

2. Facebook: Follow Child Life Mommy and tag a friend.

3. Facebook: Follow @KimberlyKingBooks and post a comment about the giveaway.

4. Twitter: Follow, Like and RT the post to @ChildLifeMommy.

5. Instagram: Follow @ChildLifeMommy and @KKingBooks, tag a friend in the post.

Good Luck! The winner will be chosen on 10/20/19.

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